A disclaimer: I'm not trying to tell you how to raise your child. I promise. :P

Hello readers,


There has been some feedback to me lately that it seems that I am trying to tell people what to do. I'm not an expert on child development. I'm a linguist and a curious person.  Above all, this blog is a resource for future me who is tired and frustrated and hormonal. I'm taking research and putting it into manageable pieces so it is accessible to me when I need it.


I'm not about forcing other people to make the same choices I make. I don't know you or your baby. I don't know your struggle. I don't know how your kid reacts to anything. I just want to make information available to you and to myself, which I do here, and then you can make whatever decision you feel is best for your situation.  


For example, I know, through research, that religion lowers suicide rates and increases lifetime hope and happiness but I'm still raising my kids in an atheist household. On paper, I'm making a poor choice but it's my choice to make. I think it's the same. Other parents have to make the choices they want to make and then their kids will live with those consequences, good and bad. The only thing that bothers me is when parents don't seem to realize that their actions and choices do have long term consequences. I just want to empower people with information so they can make thoughtful choices.


Science is powerful and I love it but it's not always going to work every time. Science is about averages. Science is about what usually happens. Science is about observing.  Every person on the planet is different and, even though there are averages and usuals, there are also outliers.  There is no way I can know if what I post here is going to apply to your situation or your child. This is just the best information I can find about each topic, based on scientific research.  Try it out and, if it doesn't work for you, try something else.

I know you love your child. How do I know? You are here reading this, trying to get more information on how you can be a better parent. Make the decisions that work for you and your family. All I ask is that you give science a real fighting chance because, chances are, your baby is going to benefit from scientific research.

Love yourself. Love your baby. Forgive your mistakes. Equip yourself with knowledge. Do the best you can. Keep it up.